Saturday, 24 October 2015

Dear Cosmopolitan ... An Open Letter



Today it came to my attention a really rather horrible article you put on your website regarding depression and 20 somethings. I know it was published back in august, but it doesnt stop me feeling strongly against it. I am not going to link it here as I dont want this link to be associated with my blog, but there are a few things I feel I need to tell you in response.

1. I turn 26 in 9 months. I don't somehow believe that after these 9 months my depression will be easier to deal with BECAUSE I have turned 26, but hopefully more to do with the fact that I will have been medicated for over a year and hopefully through hard work, determination and meditation will be able to recover from this illness.

2. Im sure we all know someone who is struggling with depression secretly or not. I dont really understand why we have to bring in Charlotte and her £10,000 dresses.

3. In reference to the fact that I think this article is REALLY badly written the phrase "dope outfit" is something I would expect in an american sit com and not a womens magazine I once respected. 

4. Again another point that I don't really understand the need for it. We may never know why we are depressed. Its a chemical imbalance in the brain. My own childhood was extremely happy, in fact my life now is. I am happily married but I struggle to enjoy things a lot of the time. 

5. You know that point in the rom-com where you switch off because its so predictable and boring? Well this is the point I nearly stopped reading your article because I felt like you were personally mocking people with depression.

6. Or I might just feel horny because I am not an overly sexually charged person? I might much prefer cuddles and watching telly snuggled up in cosy pjs than stripping off and bonking. Its cold without central heating ya know ...

7.  Sometimes we need to indulge a little in our crappiness. I am not saying you spend the rest of your life mourning over Jamie, but sometimes it is better than going straight our and having rebound sex and getting an STD. Just saying.

8. I am so sorry that you find my depression boring. Actually, one of my biggest ANXIETIES is that people will find me boring when my anxiety, depression and fibromyalgia leave me too tired/weak/anxious to go out. So thanks. Thanks a bunch.

9. Actually most people I talk to are pretty great. Even if they do say things like "yeah I understand I have been stressed out too" you almost know they mean well. However, you take to the internet and make friends with bloggers and all of a sudden you have this network of literally hundreds of girls who will help you when you are feeling down. In fact the same girls that have all over twitter been discussing how OUTRAGED we are with this article.

10. I dont drink fiji water. Good old tap water for me. I actually find that if I am feeling crap a nice fat pizza and some greys anatomy will make me feel better. Sometimes fajitas, but my point is each to their own. Just because your writer finds fiji water and soup a remedy depression is a very personal illness and sweeping generalisations wont help anyone.

11. WHAT? My depression was terrible. I am on a high does of anti depressants and yet every day I got up, showered and went to work because I was terrified of losing my job. It was horrendous, and I felt like I was just sleepwalking through my entire life. But I was doing it because I had to. If you have a few bad days that ISNT depression. Everyone with depression should seek help. Everyone.

12. I thought this terrible article was going to finish on a high. It didnt. 

I definately will not be buying your magazine in future. I feel this whole article belittled mental illness and tried to make a joke about the whole thing. There were 6708 suicides in 2013. Is that something we should we should write a light hearted article about?

3 comments:

  1. Brilliant response to a dreadful article. It sounded like a mean child had written taking the piss rather than an established magazine. I've not bought a copy for years but I know I never will again now. Absolutely appalling behaviour by a magazine that young, impressionable girls look up to.

    Holly ∣ Closingwinter

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  2. Brilliant response to a dreadful article. It sounded like a mean child had written taking the piss rather than an established magazine. I've not bought a copy for years but I know I never will again now. Absolutely appalling behaviour by a magazine that young, impressionable girls look up to.

    Holly ∣ Closingwinter

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  3. A fantastic response to a poorly written & very poorly thought out (well, to be honest, it wasn't thought out at all!) article. I completely agree that this article mocked mental illness & depression more specifically. Whether that was the intended outcome or not. As someone who hasn't suffered from depression this article made me feel terrible, I can't imagine how it would make someone fighting through depression feel or someone who has come out the other side. What message does this send to vulnerable teens & young adults? We need to be working to make mental health something people are able to talk about openly & honestly. Cosmopolitan have done the complete opposite to this! I dread to think how many people with depression have had their condition negatively affected by this article. They have gone from a publication I respect, to one I will never buy again. It doesn't matter whether it was published 10 years ago or 10 seconds ago, the Internet is forever & this article should never have been published. So proud of you for speaking out against it. Xx

    Tania | When Tania Talks

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