Monday, 11 July 2016

LETS TALK: The ugly side of blogging

Recently I have been feeling a little dispondent about this whole community and this weekend things seemed to come to a head in my mind and I need to just get some things off my chest ...

I started reading blogs about 5 years ago. I was at university and I loved the way that bloggers would be completely honest about products. That new brush all the magazines rave about? They would tell me its actually not all that. They £40 eye cream thats being advertised everywhere? They would point me in the direction of one that was just as good, if not better, for a fraction of the price. 

Even when I started my blog just over a year ago now I remember thinking that bloggers were the people who told it like it was, and werent afraid to tell you if something was a gimmick. I dont know when it happened but suddenly my bloglovin feed started filling with the same product reviews over and over again, and people daring not to say anything bad in fear of upsetting a company. I have heard countless times that people have been asked by companies not to post a negetive review, and this is to me making bloggers lose their intergirity!

I remember being invited to my first blogger events last summer and feeling like a complete fraud when I was given these goodie bags from brands with everything from hair and beauty products to food and drink for me to try. I felt like the luckiest girl in the world, because actually I am now getting out the house and meeting new people quite frequently. I have groups of friends from all over the country who regularly help me out when I am feeling crappy and this blog has bought them to me.

However, yesterday I went to an event, The Blogger Tiki Party, which I will be writing all about this week, and it was a fabulous event! I got to see a lot of my favourite people and also made some new friends. What saddened me was to find out that people had stolen from the host, taken more of things than they were allowed and just been downright disrespectful. Kirsty and Ashton had put so much work into the event and instead of being thankful for the opportunity and to meet new people etc they were clearly more focused on how much stuff they could get. For example there were a couple of tables set up that people could take a box with a sign saying please take one, and yet not everyone managed to get one, so someone or a group of bloggers must have taken more?

Its not the first time I have heard of things going sour at events either. Sarah from The Prosecco diaries has written a couple of good posts about bloggers behaving badly on her blog. She wrote bloggers will be blacklisted where she talks about the impact of no shows and people who drop out of events last minute and another more recently about how blogging has changed which you can read here. Alice from sotonbloggers also wrote a post about how bloggers who only blog for free stuff stand out like a sore thumb

I think the thing that saddens me more than anything is the fact that these wonderful women that are putting so much hard work into organising these events are having it soured by a few selfish people who dont appreciate the community. As I said I am so grateful for what the community has given me over the past year and I hate to see it spoilt by a few bad eggs.

What are your thoughts?



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10 comments:

  1. Wow, what happened at the blogger tiki party is horrible! I only started blogging recently, but you're so right in saying blogging has changed a lot over the years & the authenticity of it all has definitely decreased! :)

    Heather Xx
    http://www.100waysto30.co.uk/?m=0

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    1. Hello. Yes its aweful that people behaved that way but don't let it put you off blogging, there are a lot of gems out there!!

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  2. This so much!! What some people fail to realise is the amount of hard work that does go into organising these events and getting sponsors. I really hate entitled behaviour like this. We are supposed to be bloggers because we love what we write about, not because we get freebies. It does feel like the whole thing is getting twisted. I've gone off a lot of the big blogs because it's just endless paid advertisement and I want to hear from a real person, not a talking press release! X

    Sarah | www.sarahdeluxe.com

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  3. This is exactlty me! I want to read about a product you love not because a compnay sent it to you! I am finding I am shifting to foloowing a lot more smaller bloggers but always being conscious of the fact that if their blog begins one long advert ill leave.

    Charlotte

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  4. Completely agree with you Charlotte. What an awful thing to happen at the Blogger Tiki party! The worst thing is that it gives bloggers a bad name in general when we are already fighting against so much!

    Musings & More

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    1. Thats the worst thing. Unless someone owns up we all look guilty.

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  5. That is horrible what happened! I am a small blogger and recently got a freebie to review. I am in love with one product but the other products are not doing it for me. So, I told it like it is, and the company doesn't like it, then too bad for them. I tend to read bloggers who review products that have bad reviews. When they say they love everything they try, it seems fake.

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    1. I would always trust a blog that had bad reviews as well as the good :)

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  6. Oh my God that is disgraceful what happened! I wish I could have gone to the event, but at the same time I think certain people who took too much should be lucky. If I'd have seen that I wouldn't have kept my mouth shut. *nods*

    I've been to some blog events in the past where people have been snobby and rude, acting as if they were better than I was because they had more followers.

    Blogging has changed! You CAN tell who is in it for freebies and all that jazz and who is in it because they enjoy it.

    It makes me sick!

    https://theremightbecoffee.wordpress.com/

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    1. Oh god if I had have seen who it was I would have been straight in! I agree that some bloggers dont talk to smaller bloggers, but I just talk to anyone at events. I upset someone once because she said "Im so and so from such and such blog and I said oh I havent heard of it ... turns out she had thousands of followers haha

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